June 29, 2017 v4 p25
In my last post I discussed a little about the problem in our society lately with a lack of modesty. That post really was geared towards how women dress, but it’s not just them. For whatever reason it seems to be that it’s necessary for women to show as much skin as they can get away with. And the skimpier and tighter female clothing seemed to get, the baggier men’s clothing seemed to get. That trend tells me that in a society that is largely controlled by men, it is ok for them to dress however they wish, but that they also feel it is ok to pressure women to trend in the immodest direction. This is telling women of all ages that they must conform to what the majority feels is what is right for them. If they don’t then they will be ridiculed by their peers, and nobody will be attracted to them. Often young girls conform to this even though they don’t feel comfortable dressing that way, or they know that their parents would disapprove of what they’re wearing. It doesn’t help when their peers are mean and unkind if they don’t conform. I have some friends that are parents of middle school aged girls and almost every one of them has mentioned how their daughters have faced that peer pressure. It would be my guess that if they aren’t dealing with that then it’s their daughters who are doing the ridiculing.
The problem of body shaming isn’t anything new. It also isn’t restricted to females. It often happens by males to females, and between males. All of this is nothing new. What’ new is the amount exposure the stories get when they are made public. The speed at which stories move through social media is astounding. On top of that, it’s hard to determine which of them are fake or not. For someone to post that kind of story online, only to be lying, is a whole other issue. The more times we see these stories, fake or not, we become more desensitized to them. By the time you’ve seen a similar story four or five times you almost come to expect it. Eventually when you hear that same similar story you stop being disgusted by it and it becomes part of everyday life. In order for people to stay in the front of other people’s minds they must then do more. Looking back at the fashion industry, if one clothing company creates a short skirt, then another will come along and create one even shorter. Eventually you only end up covering parts of your body that should only be revealed to a doctor or your spouse.
It’s easy to lump all of these issues of dressing immodestly on the female wardrobe options, but it’s a problem with males too. The other night I was watching a popular talent show on television with my family. One of the acts was a small group of men who were dancers. Their wardrobe consisted of a pair of blue jeans and footwear. Note they weren’t wearing shirts. Now these men had obviously been working out for some time to achieve a muscular tone in their upper bodies, and that’s very admirable. But what did not wearing a shirt have to do with how well they danced? When they were meeting to discuss their wardrobe for the show why did they choose that? Did they feel insecure about their dancing ability and decide that it was necessary for them to not wear a shirt in the hopes that some females would admire their physique and vote for them based on looks rather than talent? Doesn’t that bring into question the integrity of the competition? Shouldn’t the contestants all be judged on their talent, not their costume? There have also been a few other male acts on the show that for whatever reason decided that they needed to perform their acts completely nude. I credit the editors for effectively censoring their performances, but once again this seems like a case of making one appear more sensational than they truly are in order to cover up for lack of talent in their act.
It’s hard to point a finger at one single event or thing that started all this trend. Unfortunately thought most people in society don’t feel that this is a problem that needs to be addressed. Either that or they just don’t care. The problem with both of those points of view is that it is a problem and everyone needs to care. We have become a society of people who only think of themselves. Yet they then go to church on Sunday and praise God and Jesus for all of the great things they have done for them. That’s not what Jesus taught us to do. Jesus tells us in Matthew 22:37-40 “He said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord, your God, with all of your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’” If you were to only love your spouse one day a week how long do you think your relationship would last? The part about loving your neighbors doesn’t only apply to the people who live in the house you can see across the road from your bedroom window. I think people have forgotten that.
We are on a slippery slope and falling the wrong way fast. The only way to reverse that is to start by asking yourself if you’re loving God and your neighbor as Jesus has taught us.